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The likelihood that two people have the same interest in specific sexual fetishes is hit or miss sometimes. That said, people often feel surprise at what their partners would like to explore in the bedroom and beyond. Coming from a place of honesty, tact, and researching how to do your approach is a smart plan. Follow these pieces of advice when it comes to foot fetishes. These tips will help you decide how to best approach your partner about your foot fetish.
About Reactions
There are a wide range of reactions a person can have when talking about foot fetishes. First, note that some people have experiences with previous negative reactions that may give them pause. This can be a factor if a person is looking to bring up their fetish with a new partner. If you fall into this category, you are not alone. Foot fetishes are one of the most common types of fetish. Being true to yourself and your curiosities can have many benefits, something to note.
Finding the right time to bring up fetishes and activities you want to explore can seem hard to do. Consent is essential in any sexual activity, so approaching the subject outside of sexual activity itself is often the best plan. Finding times were all people who will be in the chat are calm and relaxing is a good idea. It is most often better than bringing it up in the heat of a moment. Starting with mentioning that you enjoy massaging people’s feet, or the way their feet look in certain shoes, can create a good opening. Brainstorm ways to let your partner know you have an interest in exploring their feet, or least chatting about it. This approach can help people start a conversation in a low pressure environment.
Be Prepared
Preparation is helpful in making the conversation more smooth. Find some resources that you particularly like that you can point your partner to you so they can do some reading. You do not need to chat everything out right when you bring it up, though many people do have conversations at that time. Doing some research yourself can help you prepare to discuss with your partner honestly and openly.
Some people find that chatting about when and how their foot fetish or interest in feet began can be helpful. Also, you should brainstorm some activities that interest you. Having a range of lighter activities to transition into more exploration can be a good plan. If there are things about foot fetishes that you do not have an interest in, you can also let them know. Some people are all about foot massages, others like penetration with toes, and some people like the feeling of having kisses on their feet while they are having sex.
Be Tactful
For people who do not spend time researching foot fetishes, and some who are, it can be a little bit intimidating talking to your partner about your foot fetish. Offering to take things at their pace can help your partner keep a relaxing demeanor. Communicate with your partner before you explore and experiment with new things, and let them know you will stop if there is something they do not like or find uncomfortable. If they do not like something, or are uncomfortable, follow through with this, stop, and stay tactful.
You can continue to talk about foot fetishes tactfully at a later point, and move on to other sexy fun. Take the time to have open, honest, and nonjudgmental conversation with your partner about your fetishes. You will learn more about each other, and new and exciting adventures could come of it. Keep in mind that you may also learn about a fetish or two your partner has in the process. Since this often happens, be ready for some potential sharing on both sides of things.
More Notes From Parker Rose
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